Since time began men have always found it effective to lie in order to get women to love them. According to statistics, men are still using this age-old technique. Women may not have caught up with this approach yet as men have found ways to further refine this. If a girl asks you if you have a stable job, say yes. If she asks if she looks nice in her dress, say yes. If she asks if you’ll be with her through thick and think, say yes.

Barbaric? I know.

If lying does not sit well with you, use the other fine-tuned approach: pretend. Pretend to be sensitive. Feel her pain, or at least tell her that you empathize. Sympathize with her. Be the man that you are not but she hopes you to be. If she’s cold, don’t grab her around the waist: Be a gentleman and give her your jacket.

Heartless? You bet.
 
Okay. So, you used those approaches in the past and they did not pan out well for you, and now you want to try something different. Very well.

You can actually try honesty. Women like this, too. This may take a lot of determination on your part especially if the real you is not that palatable to the opposite sex. But the good thing about this approach is you don’t have to make up things. If she asks something, you already have the answer in you.

Of course, if you’re going to go with the honesty approach, do not expect things to unravel the way it does in movies. You’re no Will Smith, bear that in mind. Being honest may not cut it just yet. You have to somehow make her see that what you have is a good thing. Although the honesty that you show will be a plus point for you, that’s not all you have to bank on. Show her that you like her. If you like somebody, chances are you want to do nice things to her, sweet things. Sweet things that come from an honest place truly warm the heart.

How to get a girl to love you? Make sure that you show the real you to make the love, stick.

If you have found the girl you really like, and you don’t want to spoil your chances of being with her, try to plan first your move according to her personality. Take it slow. You don’t want her to be caught in the middle, unprepared.

As my advice, you must follow these 4 steps on how to get with a girl:

Make Her Feel Important

If you are new acquaintances, let her feel that you are delighted to see her and that you enjoy her company. Show her that you value her opinions and suggestions on some issues. It will boost her confidence and will even make you a “mystery” to her. She will find ways to decipher what you see in her. Call it vanity or what, but there is something that will be telling her that she does not want to disappoint you. This may be a good start.

Good Conversation
 
Have light and enjoyable conversations with her. Find out what interests her, and talk to her about them. Encourage her to speak her mind, as well. With that, she will always feel comfortable and relaxed with you.

Listen To Her. Be Her Friend.

It is hard to find guys who are great listeners. More often, men just nod with their heads showing agreement, but in reality they just don’t get it. Before you give advice, listen attentively. You may be surprised with what you discover. She needs your company. Most of the time, girls just want someone to talk to. They are not weak, as they may have often portrayed, because of their sentimentality. In reality, they can handle their problems well. They just need someone who will lend their time and ears. Sometimes a simple gesture of concern is enough.

Find Out If She Is Ready To Be Your Girlfriend.

When you now have a solid friendship with her, find out if what she feels for you is beyond that. You can sense it in her eyes when she talks to you. You can feel it in her touch when she  holds you. You may tell her what you feel when you’re both ready.

Just remember that a relationship is a commitment of both parties, so it is not something just based on feelings or whim. When she accepts you, be ready to be always there for her.

Maybe behind the question of how to make a girl want you is a more fundamentally uncertain thing: Do girls really know what they want?

Whenever we like a girl, the question that immediately confronts us is: Does she or would she like me? The next step, of course, is to ask. But the smart ones actually get to realize that that is a stupid thing to do because that puts you in the position of getting either a yes or a no, and then dealing with the answer, which more often than not is a big no and leaves your ego reeling like a an earthworm accidentally stepped on. Yet in the same way that good entrepreneurs invent a demand rather than respond to one, men who occupy the top layer of the widening pyramid of intelligence realize that you should never give a girl the power to say yes or no when there is no stimuli that would cultivate a yes.

Every girl is different and unique, and making a girl want you requires effort. It involves being friends with that girl that you like, making sure that she sees you as a safe person to be with and trusting you enough so that she can begin to open up. It takes a connoisseur to really read girls and what they want. But if you are truly into a girl, you would naturally be all ears and on the lookout for what pleases her and what doesn’t. You’d notice how she likes her coffee. If she takes it plain black, you can probably assume, as well, that she likes things simple, or that she likes to stick to the basics. If she likes it with cream and sugar, then she’s probably more indulgent or that she at least like things rich and full. If she takes it with full cream and sweetener, then she’s a walking paradox who wants to do things right but isn’t always successful in doing so. And that’s just based on how they like their coffee! There are many other things to notice, so watch and learn.

Only after that can you begin to make your efforts of pleasing her be more palpable, and by that time, the intimacy of your friendship would have grown deep enough such that she can realize that her world would no longer be the same without you, and that you are at least a friend she would want to keep. In this space you can now ask her whether she wants to be with you inside of a different dynamic, and at this point, a yes or a no would be worth getting, knowing that you did your best.