Soon after a little boy learns how to tie his shoelaces, another main skill he’d surely need to learn next is on how to impress girls. This is a skill that first gets practiced in pleasing mom, or a sister, but eventually turns into a life-long education of relating with women in the same process of forming his identity as a man. It becomes a game of learning how to be with and accepted by what seems to be the “other” and eventually reaches its culmination in finding a relationship and being unified with such other into a bigger wholeness.

And it’s a concern that a lot of them cannot seem to get. It isn’t rare to find a man who can give you the ABC’s of building a business empire, or a full-blown explanation of the basic principles of quantum physics, or give you all that in various different languages AND YET remain to be clueless in the realm of impressing girls. One would think that those skills are impressive enough. In fact, people normally think that good looks are enough, but all of these work only before the next moment when a woman begins to look for something more.

Now “something more” does not refer to another skill. Impressing women does not depend on skills or looks or tricks. Ultimately it boils down to something that already includes the “other.” Ultimately, it involves one thing that men, in every generation that arrives, seem to be losing more and more as a basic human ability. It is this: ATTENTION. If you’re in the inquiry of how to impress girls then you should be interested in how to pay attention to them. It is the one and only thing that is guaranteed to impress a girl for a sustained period of time.